I think I
have yet to write about one of the most exciting events of my life. I’m
engaged! Haha.. actually quite long already. Since 18 Feb 12.. so I’ve been
engaged for about 4 mths now and in the mist of planning my wedding which will
be in December this year.
When I was
18, I hatched this long-term plan to get married by 25. I was to find a
boyfriend by 20 and date him for 5yrs before getting married. Yes, all my
friends thought it was ridiculous.. this kind of thing cannot force one what.
And a little bit of me also thought it was impossible because I could not
imagine any guy wanting date, let alone marry a nonsensical mess like me. But
God is really so good to me and put Weiquan in my life and now in my 26th
year after dating him for 5yrs, we’re getting married!! I know its really cliché
to say all those things like “he’s my soulmate”, “he’s my better half”, “he
makes me a better person”, “he completes me” .... but he is really all those
things. I still can’t believe I’ve got such a good guy or such a good guy would
want me. Haha.. Not only is he tall, dark and super handsome (hehehe...), he is
kind, gentle, loving, patient, understanding, generous, encouraging, mature,
responsible and intelligent. No matter how naughty I am, he still loves me.
He is
deathly afraid of tickles.... and because I know that, I will always sneak an
attack on him when he least expects cos it is just so funny I can’t help myself.
This is maybe 8 out of 10 times we meet. If you are a guy you think you can
stand it a not? Haha... but he can... There was once he ate like 90% of a macdonalds
hash brown i really wanted to eat and I cried for half an hour. Most guys would
think I’m crazy and ignore me.. but he comforted me even tho he must have
thought I was mad. Than there was that time where I bought a Ukulele and I was
SO EXCITED about it. He was taking a nap and I woke him up with all the
practising. Instead of chiding me for disturbing him with my horrendous music,
he said I was so talented for learning how to play twinkle twinkle little stars
in 2hrs (i think maybe 5yr old also can do this). He really very too good to be true hor! haha..
And the
proposal....which he spent so much effort on. He is really quite shy and hates
to plan parties or events, but for me, he started planning the proposal 2mths
before and went to reece the location a few times. And way before this, he
bought a diamond and custom made a ring for me, which is so beautiful I could
just look at it for hours. Haha.. Anyway, he recruited his scout friends who
are such great buddies to help him out. It is extremely difficult to surprise
me as I am always snooping around his things. But he managed to hide this one
by telling me loads of believable lies. For example, he was making these huge Styrofoam
words “will you marry me” and i saw loads of Styrofoam in his study and when I
asked him what those were, he said it was his sister’s things for her company’s
D&D and told me not to touch them. Than there was once he got a sun burn
from a recee at sentosa (the proposal venue) and I asked him why he was
sunburnt, he said he was out at the aircraft hanger the whole day and I bought
it. Sometimes I wonder if i trust him too much or if he is a really good
liar... I hope its the former. Hahaha..Anyway, on 18 Feb, we spent the entire
day at sentosa and his friends came in the evening and secretly set up
everything. Finally when it was close to sun set, he brought me to the location
and surprised me with the huge words floating in the water, flowers, champagne
n the RING! His friends took photos and videos for us. Even though we ended the
evening with dinner with his family (cos it was his sister’s b’day) instead of
having dinner with our friends (which would have been the ideal situation), I
am still so touched he spent so much effort.
I really
don’t know what I did to deserve such a wonderful guy like him and I am ecstatic
that we’re gona be stuck together for the rest of our lives! :) haha..
Below is
the video of the proposal that weiquan did, for your entertainment. Haha.. As you can tell.. I was not expecting this and was in a very dishevelled state after a whole day at the beach.
charlyn recorded history @
11:31 AM
Wednesday, April 25, 2012
Hair accessories for my girls
Hello girls, below are some ribbon styles for hairpins, headbands and rubber bands which I would like to make for each one of you. Here's how it goes.
Step 1: choose a style of ribbon you like (numbered 1-11)
Step 2: choose either hairpin, headband or rubber band which the ribbon style you chose in step 1 would be attached to.
Step 3: If you chose hairpin or headband, pls pick which style (A or B) you would like.
Step 4: If you chose hairpin, let me know how many you would like (max 3)
Step 5: Inform me of your choice in the following format (ie: Ribbon 1/ hairpin B/ 2 pins) another example (ie: Ribbon 3/rubber band) yet another example (Ribbon 4/Headband A)
Finally, if there is none below that you like, feel free to call or email me what you would like. As long as it can be made using a ribbon, I will try my darnest to make it! :) Happy choosing!
My mum gave my maid leave for about 2 weeks to go back to Philippines to visit her family. This is not in the contract and it is on top of what she gets every 2yrs. So she was supposed to return two days ago at about 4pm. But she never came home. After calling the airline, we found out she did not even board the plane back to sg…… And worse of all.. my mum was in korea and the house was a mess after 2 weeks w/o a maid! We were all dreading my mum’s reaction. So yesterday after work, I set out to clean and pack the entire house so that when she returned that night, the news that my maid had “run away” would not be the biggest shocker. (biggest shocker would be that the house looked neat and clean. Haha…)
So I enlisted weiquan’s help. He is really the sweetest bf in the whole world! Come and help me wash, clean and pack all. We had tonnes to do since my mum n I had not unpacked the million things we bought in China, the toilet had not been washed, the floor was dusty and full of paw prints, there were so many dirty clothes and the fridge smelt like something was rotting in it. Anyway, as I was furiously sliding all over and moping the floor with a cloth, cos either we don’t have a mop or my maid hid it so well, he said that he has never seen that side of me and it was really scary. He said that I was so focused on mopping the floor that I would run down anyone who stood in the way and that I’d make a really mad housewife…. -__- hahaha… Now that I think about it, its true… I’d make a mad housewife. I really loathe doing housework and I channel all that anger into the chores I’m doing. Which make me seem kinda mad. I think I get that way when I’m too focused on getting something done.
I have really been so blessed my entire life having my parents provide a maid to help clean and pick up after me. And I had been dreading moving away from my home to a place which does not have a maid cos I am very messy and I hate cleaning. With no maid to pick up after me, I’m afraid the new people I live with will really dislike me cos they would have to pick up after me if they can’t stand my mess. But now that my maid is gone…. And if she really doesn’t come back, I guess this is God’s intervention for me. He probably planned it such that the next 8 months before I move would train me to pick and clean up after myself. Even though I would have really rather enjoy my last 8 months WITH a maid. Haha..
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2:06 PM
Tuesday, March 20, 2012
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5:20 PM
Monday, January 30, 2012
My 10 Million Dollars!
Today during lunch, some of my colleagues were discussing the toto prize money for this Friday as the first prize is a whooping 10 MILLION DOLLARS! Than my friend asked... what would you do if you on this $10mil? I immediately said I would quit my job, invest in property and tour the world via hot air balloon. Than she told me that hot air balloon was really dangerous as there was one which exploded in NZ and all passengers were killed. Anyway.. this made me think a little deeper... what would i REALLY do with $10mil? Seems like a lot... but now a days with property and gold being so super expensive... $10mil prolly can't even buy you one decent bungalow in the heart of orchard road/bukit timah/holland V.
Anyway... here's what I thought I'll do on second thought...
First I'll take long leave from my job to travel around in the US and Eastern Europe. Than I'd invest half of it in 2 properties (one condo in Clementi and the other a small landed property in bishan within walking dist of the MRT). I'd rent out the condo and move into the landed. I would buy myself a car... maybe a Lexus? I would donate some money to an organisation in cambodia that helps girls who were trafficked. Than I would go back to work part-time and at the same time take some courses on investing. I will invest maybe half of what I have left in stocks and shares. The rest I will divide among my mum, sis and brother. When I make enough money from the stocks I'll buy another condo in Bukit Merrah and rent it out. Than I will relax and live on my rental income and part time job.
charlyn recorded history @
3:07 PM
Wednesday, January 25, 2012
My baby analysis
This CNY, my cousin brought her super cute 5mth old baby to our CNY gathering. Everyone was going gaga over the little girl, esp my mum... Than one aunty started... "Charlene, when will you have one for your mum to carry?" and it caught on... and other aunties asked stuff along the same lines too... One of my aunt, whom i've mentioned to that I want a dog instead of baby said "see... everyone loves babies, if you have a dog instead of a baby, everyone would not go all gaga over your dog. But everyone would go gaga over your baby." -___-
First things first... I'm NOT MARRIED YET! yes i'm probably the next in line to get married.. But i can't stress enough that I'm NOT MARRIED YET! I seriously can't imagine how much more bombarded I would be after I get married... why do people like to wish newly weds to have children.. you know.. stuff like "jao shen gui zi (faster give birth)" or "don't stop at 2"... OMG....... I really think wishing them a blissful marriage is a WAY more important than having children. I think a lot of people have this idea that children complete a family or even make a family... I feel that if a couple feels that they are not a completed family on their own, they should not get married. This is because not every couple will be "blessed" with a child, than what? They will feel incomplete all their lives. A couple should always be enough for each other. Children are just the up-size to a complete macdonalds meal. Without them, the meal still complete.
Don't get me wrong, I'm not a child hater. In fact, I love kids! I love how they are so tiny, I love the nonsense they blab, I love how they can be so sweet and fun....they are great! BUT... that's because I only play with them for a few hours every week and return them to their parents after. I know it is a very different story when they belong to you. You have to clean up after them, teach them, give them all your extra time and attention...etc.. What they grow up to be is your doing. You might have tried your darnest.. but sometimes, they just don't turn out the way you wanted them to. My main gripe is this... Many people look at babies/kids and go mad over their cuteness and decide that they want one too... BUT have you ever looked at a pimply teenager or an ah beng or a criminal and go... I want one too? Why not? They were once kids too!! In fact, they could have been the cutest baby... but I think looking beyond a kid's first 10years of cuteness... one has to be aware that they are dealing with a lifetime of responsibility and sacrifice. So if you have not thought about loving your possibly uncute child during their teenage/adult years, isn't it irresponsible to say "I want one too".
The other thing is...... why do people automatically assume that babies are cute? My cousin is super lucky. Her kid is REALLY cute. But there are countless others that are less fortunate...I am a staunch believer that there are ugly babies, but no ugly baby animals. And there are MORE cute baby animals than human babies. (which rebuff's my aunty's comment about no one swooning over my future dog.) Just go to google images and type the following: "ugly babies", "ugly baby animals", "cute babies", "cute baby animals". I did that maybe 2hrs ago and i'm still repulsed from the images of the ugly babies and swooning over the cute baby animals.
Finally... so many people will say this... "you don't want a baby now, but next time you will." Than next time than say la!! why must say now? OR if I say that I don't want to have a kid cos i'm quite sure I won't know how to handle it.. than they will say "next time when you have a baby, you will automatic know how to take care of it". How is that possible?? It will probably be a lot of trial and error before you know how to take care of a child. And with raising children... you really don't want to make too much errors right? of course all parents make errors, and their children become a product of their successes and errors. I feel that I cannot bear the responsibility of raising a child wrong. I will not be able to take it when my child tells me he/she hates me or wishes he/she was never born or say some sort of hurtful thing to me. I'd really rather have a dog who will love me unconditionally and will always reciprocate my love. I think I will only consider having a child if i'm absolutely sure I can bring up a decent human being. For now... i am not responsible enough and not self sacrificial enough to love a child unconditionally. And... the truth is not everybody will be.
How can you not swoon over these babies.....
charlyn recorded history @
9:41 AM
Friday, January 13, 2012
My grown up friends
I met up with the sailors on tuesday for dinner. Topics of the dinner conversation included:
- Job hunts
- Job changes
- Travels around the world
- Property
- Investment in property
- Wedding
- Match making
And as we were talking... a thought came to mind.. we're all grown up! I was just trying to remember what we would have been talking about 5yrs ago.. but that seem like such a distant memory now. I'm just so glad that some things don't change, like us always having a blast together and talking about where to travel together next. I have know these bunch since I was 17yrs old and its really amazing how we all still hang out together every other month. I really hope this continues even as we thread different paths in life. I really hope we can all continue to grow old together. :)
charlyn recorded history @
10:16 AM
Wednesday, August 10, 2011
Happy National Day
Yesterday was national day. This year, I decided I will really enjoy my national day by thinking about all the little things I love about Singapore. And I realised I really love Singapore SO MUCH!
The little things I love about Singapore: 1. The roads are beautiful. Its really like taking a drive in the country everyday. Maybe a lot of people don't realise this, because driving can be quite stressful, but if you look out the car window you'll realise outside is always green! No where in the world can you find a city with such beautiful roads. Our roads and traffic system are also well organised. The signs are easy to follow and even if you get lost, you'd somehow always manage to find your way in the end.
2. Our beaches are so clean! I went for a picnic with Weiquan's family at Changi point yesterday and the beach was small, but almost rubbish free! I was really impressed because it is such a secluded place.. even if it was filled with rubbish few people would know. But it was almost spotless.
3. Singapore is super safe. The night before national day, I went for supper with some colleagues near my house. It ended about 11pm and I decided that I would walk home (about 1km away). On my way home, I thought to myself, I feel so happy that I can do this without fear of someone robbing or raping or murdering me. Unlike in other countries where after 10pm, it gets really dangerous to be out.
4. Singapore has such good food. I really love Singapore food. Laksa, Ba Chor Mee, Rojak, Thosai, Ba Ku Teh etc.. what's there not to love. There's something for everybody. We really have such a great variety of food! Anything you want you can find here.
So those are the few things I thought about yesterday. I really feel so fortunate to be born in Singapore. Sure, its not the perfect country. But which country is perfect? Just like no one is perfect, the one with the least imperfection is the best right? And to me, Singapore is really the best country in the world! :)
charlyn recorded history @
8:52 AM
Sunday, April 24, 2011
My quarter life crisis
I am about 4 months shy of 25 years of age and I have been feeling aimless and unsatisfied with everything I am doing and with life in general. I'm not interested in anything and not interested in making anything interesting to me. I have been feeling really useless and bad about myself, and only focusing on all my flaws. I am in a rut and I can't get out of it. Then someone mentioned something about a quarter life crisis and I thought... maybe that's what this is. So I go online and try to diagnose myself....
Below are some symptoms I found online of a quarter life crisis:
feeling "not good enough" because one can't find a job that is at one's academic/intellectual level (CHECK)
frustration with relationships, the working world, and finding a suitable job or career (CHECK)
nostalgia for university, college, or high school life(CHECK)
financially-rooted stress(CHECK)
loneliness(CHECK)
a sense that everyone is, somehow, doing better than you(CHECK)
I have all the above symptoms...>__<
Below are extracts from urbandictionary.com's definition of a quarter life crisis: ____________________________ Usually occurs sometime in your twenties, a few years out of school and still feel as though you're waiting for you're life to begin.
For most people it will be arround twenty five years of age (give or take a year or two) as this tends to be when you're way of thinking is starting to change beyond that of a high school or college student.
It's an age where a lot people start developing a more realistic outlook in life and start feeling that if they haven't accomplished certain things in life they thought they would by then that they may never (Even though this isn't true and they still have a long time to attain their goals and dreams).
Some people will respond to a quarter life crisis by rushing into various landmark type goals in life (ie, getting married, moving out from your parents house, getting your first house, getting your first real job, having kids). ______________________________
Everything above is true for me. I think I really am having a quarter life crisis!! Sighs.. what if everything I think I want now is because I am having a quarter life crisis and if I wasn't having a quarter life crisis, I won't be wanting those things? This is kind of worrying.. I think I probably need to go find how to cure this now... but my quarter life crisis is making me feel so uninterested in finding a cure for myself. sighs...
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9:17 PM
Tuesday, October 19, 2010
I miss school...
Today during lunch, my colleagues and I were talking about school. One of them is my age and the other is a year older. Anyway, we all graduated not too long ago, but I realised when we were talking about our uni days, we were so excited and happy. It just shows how much we miss those good o'l days.
Come to think of it, I think uni were the best days of my life so far. I had such an all rounded life. I was good at school, I had at one period of time joined 5 CCAs, I focused my weekend time with family and friends. I had it all. hahaha... I really loved the rush of living such a busy yet well managed life. I used to think that if you didn't live life to the fullest, you might as well not live at all. Sadly, now that uni is over and I have started work, I don't think i'm living life to the fullest. I guess my job could be rather meaningful if I think of it as my bit in contributing to society, but at the same time, I don't seem to be getting the same fulfilled feeling I get while I was in school. I guess working doesn't seem to give me the same thrill.
I don't know what to do about this. I don't like living like I have nothing going on for me. I think its time I got busy with something other than work... like i was thinking of taking up martial arts. hahahaha.... I think that it is really quite useful, compared to dancing or painting or learning another language. None of those can save your life, but martial arts may be able to. Imagine if you are being mugged, but you only know how to paint... than how? die la... but if you know how to fight, at least got some chance to protect yourself right? hahahaha... The only problem is where am i going to learn this. I know the CC near my place has classes, but i only see kids up to my waist in those classes. Won't it be really hilarious if I was in their class. hahaha.... well... who ask me to start so late. too bad for me then. guess i can finally be the tallest person in a class. hahaha....
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